Daphne Beauty

(I never received a first message) I think it’s definitely okay to be a guarded person. It’s more than okay to be particular about who you give your heart to. Since I don’t have the first message, I don’t really know the situation you are in but it sounds maybe like you have feelings for somebody? Anyway. I can answer your direct question, in any case.

The things that make it right:
1. He is patient. He stuck with me even without the physical stuff that I was not ready for.
2. He loved me before I was pretty (his love is a different timeline than mine. He swears he’s been in love with me since we were 14.)
3.  Even when I am pissed as hell and ready to push him off a cliff, I still love him.
4. He does not give his heart easily, but he gave it to me. 
5. I find him ridiculously attractive. 
6. He is smarter than I am.
7.  When I thought I had lost him (in a car accident around Christmas), I couldn’t even function. I can’t imagine my life without him. I just can’t. I mean…I’m strong enough to move on and live my life, but the thought just physically cripples me and I refuse to think about it. My future has him in it. I can’t see it any other way.
8. My family and friends like him. This is more important to me than I think it is to most people.
9. I still love him even after hearing his “getting ready for bed” ritual, which includes elephantine trumpet nose-blowing, hawking loogies, and gargling endlessly.
10. He makes me want to open up, even when it’s scary.

I guess this is a very specific list. It’s probably utterly unhelpful for you. Maybe I’ll just quote the infinitely wise Stana Katic instead: “When you learn to open yourself up, it’s amazing the transformation that takes place: the breath becomes fuller. The heart becomes open. They’re vulnerable, but there’s something so amazing about brave vulnerability.”

Don’t be stupid, but don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Give it time and a chance. There is no rush. Love can take time. It did for me.